I’m in control of how I react to others. I have no more control over what other people say and do than they have over what I think and feel. To feel the suffering of others and want to help is a good impulse, but any actions that I am able to take should not feed into that cycle of suffering.

This Affirmation Helps Me to Simplify

I’m in control of how I react to others. This also implies that I control how much of their actions and behaviors I have to tolerate and bear witness to. Walking away is as much of an option as sharing my feelings and opinions. To simplify means I don’t have to react to anything when I don’t have to, and to be selective as to how much or how little I choose to share.

This Affirmation Helps Me to Create

I’m in control of how I react to others. The joy that I take from my creative process, and my own feelings about my creative work, are not diminished by other peoples’ opinions. I incorporate constructive and informed feedback so that I can learn and grow. To create means that I make things to my own standards and for my own reasons, not just to please other people.

This Affirmation Helps Me to Thrive

I’m in control of how I react to others. Being aware of how peoples’ words and actions affect me, I can limit my exposure to people who upset me. This allows me to focus on positive interactions within constructive relationships. To thrive means that I get to decide how much I’ll allow other people to affect my feelings.

I’m In Control of How I React to Others

There is a body of peer-reviewed work in the field of social psychology that indicates self-affirmation can reduce a person’s stress response. It doesn’t affect short-term mood or long-term self-esteem, but it does create a buffer against everyday stressors. It won’t magically make your dreams come true. You cannot change the world around you with your thoughts. Affirmations can help you to reframe your thinking and help you to focus your actions. The greatest effects come when affirmations reinforce your values and priorities.

Is This Affirmation Helpful to You?

I want to know what you think. Leave your comments, questions, and advice in the comments below. I want to know what you think.

4 thoughts on “I’m In Control of How I React to Others

  1. Melissa Morgan says:

    Wow you are really speaking to me today! I think this is very helpful.

  2. Geoff Nelson says:

    That was really helpful, and I appreciate you including research and what it says about reinforcing your values. Thank you.

  3. I needed to make it clear what the actual value is. No “law of attraction” nonsense.

Comments may be held for moderation.