Today is Ystävänpäivä in Finland. While the United States and other parts of the world battle over the problematic nature of Valentine’s Day — the potential sexism, the seemingly baked-in misogyny, the poke in the eye to single people, the heartache for those who have loved and lost — the Finns turned it into Friendship Day. You still give flowers, candy, greeting cards, and other gifts, but you give them to your friends so they know that you love them.
Katie and I celebrate our anniversary every year. We don’t need an artificially manufactured holiday on a random date, and we’ve basically ignored Valentine’s Day for as long as we’ve been together. I’m more likely to want to mark the occasion of our first accidental date (it was supposed to be a group thing with friends, but we were the only ones who showed up), or our second accidental date (same thing happened, because those mutual friends were punking us/setting us up), or our first real date. For a real landmark of a day, our wedding anniversary is less than a month away.
That’s not to say we didn’t mark the occasion. I made us tacos for lunch, real ones, not what passes over here. At the store I managed to find a couple of Coronas for a price that wasn’t too dear, so we had cervezas as well. So good. Dinner is going to be a nice pot of tea and some spice cake, because I expect we’ll still be stuffed from lunch.