One way to figure out what my goals for the year are is to picture what I want my world to look like in the future. That’s difficult for me, for a couple of reasons. One, as I’ve written about before, my life has a lot of variables right now that are outside of my control. It’s hard to aim for specific outcomes. What I can do is look at things I want a year from now on a broader, more general scale.
3 Things I Want a Year From Now
My criteria for this one boils down to things I don’t want to have to think about in a year. Things that I want to be resolved and off of my plate. That doesn’t sound like lofty ambition, but are you read what my three choices are, you’ll know that they’re pretty huge. If you wadded these all together, the overarching theme is a desire for a firm foundation from which I can expand and grow.
A Stable Situation
A year from now, Katie will know what she’s going to do next. She will hopefully already be doing it. That might be a teaching job, a research position, or running her own business. I will no longer be providing the sole income in the house, which will give us a lot more flexibility and operational capabilities. Most importantly, we’ll know where we’re going to be living, and if we have to move will likely have already done so. As much as I’d love to stay in Finland, and in this city, if we have to move for Katie’s work at least the uncertainty will be gone.
My Business Running Smoothly
Even though I’ve been running Dancing Lights Press for three years now, I still feel like I’m in start up mode. A lot of my time has been spent building things — tools, processes, and relationships, mainly. I’m just now feeling like I get to do the job, rather than lay the groundwork for the job. It’s not that I’ll necessarily be putting in less hours, but I can shift my focus to other things. This is the year that I can really start to grow the business into what I ultimate want it to be.
A Larger Social Circle
There are a lot of reasons why I don’t have many friends. I’ll pin anxiety to the top of that list. There’s the fact that I live in a country where I’m not fluent in the language (yet). Most of the international community around me is transient, so people tend to move after a few months or a few years. I want more opportunities to meet people, make friends, and find folks to hang out with here in real life. That could just be a group that I belong to that meets once or twice a month.
What I Can Do With This
These things all require patience. Katie is doing what she needs to do. I’m doing what I need to do. The rest is just recognizing opportunities as they arise and being prepared to leverage them.