Whether you’re a Buddhist or not, you have to accept the First Noble Truth: suffering exists. We all experience it to some degree. It could be serious in nature, like a major illness or the loss of a loved one. There might be a tragedy on a broader scale beyond ourselves, like war, a terrorist attack, or a natural disaster. Suffering could be something small and trivial that causes us frustration or discomfort. We need to honestly assess the scope and scale of our suffering. We need to employ Right View. Then we can use that perspective as a catalyst for self-care. What is Right View? Right View is the first step along the Buddhist Eightfold Path. It’s not meant[…]

For the month of June I’m moving to a twice-weekly blogging schedule. Before that kicks off tomorrow I wanted to take a moment to touch base, and to let you know what to expect to see in this space going forward. This is the State of Berin, June 2018. My June 2018 Mission Statement I remain true to myself and my values no matter what happens. My June 2018 Vision Statement I am well-organized, maintain the right focus, and have the flexibility to handle unexpected changes. Old Business Following The Inevitable Crash™ at the end of March, I spent April getting excess obligations off of my plate. There were tasks that I didn’t need to be doing, and loose ends[…]

In this episode of the Proof of Life podcast, Katie and Berin discuss the decline in the American birth rate. They talk about why people are choosing not to have children, which comes down to the same thing as always — money. Stagnant wages, student loan debt, and the crippling cost of medical care are among the topics covered.  Special Thanks Pertti Ankkuri Petri Nurmi Gary Weller Support Our Patreon https://www.patreon.com/proofoflife Berin’s Blog https://berinkinsman.com Katie’s Instagram https://www.instagram.com/katie_kinsman_in_finland/

This isn’t one of those “Everyone look at me, I am leaving Facebook, weep for my forthcoming absence, listen to my list of grievances” dramatic exits that have become an annoying cliche. Quite the opposite, in fact. My decision to delete Facebook happened back in the middle of April, about six weeks ago. I didn’t say anything, didn’t tell anyone, just quietly left. Since then two people have noticed, or at least two people have bothered to say anything. I could use that fact to try to make a point, but why bother. You’ve heard it all before. Besides, this post isn’t really about Facebook. Life is an editing process. You keep what you want, make what you absolutely need[…]

This seems like a repeat of yesterday’s self-care tip (which itself felt like a repeat of the previous day’s tip), but I think there’s a fairly substantial difference. They’re two sides of the same coin, at the very least. You do have to reject other peoples’ definitions of self-care, but you can’t just leave a void. You need to create your own definition of self-care in order to be able to find a way forward. One of the questions I’ve been asked most frequently has been “What is self-care, anyway?”. Aside from the obvious “It’s taking are of yourself, duh!” answer, it’s kind of vague. Every human being has common needs — food, clothing, shelter, etcetera — but every person[…]